An essay by
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie for the New Yorker is now a book. Notes on Mourning: the search for language at the time of the father's death.
"I didn't know that we cried with the muscles." The phrase refers to everything we did not know before someone close to us died. Nigerian-American Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie wrote it after her father's death, the most painful confrontation with the loss that left her “turned inside out, screaming and screaming on the floor.” There is no complacency because as you learn about pain